Growing Old with You – a Love Song for Bob by Etta

My friends Bob and Etta Britt have faced cancer this year but not let it come between them. For Bob’s birthday,
Etta wrote a song. “Grow Old with You.” The note and link is below. Etta wrote…
Happy Birthday to my sweet sweet husband!!
Late last night, we snuggled in with a glass of whiskey and watched an episode of “Justified”. When it was over I looked at the clock and it was 12:30am..Bob’s birthday! I asked him if I could give him his birthday gift at that moment. I thought it would be nicer to give it to him last night when it was dark and quiet and private instead of today with cars going by, sirens and dogs barking.. Of course he said yes.
I had him set up his bluetooth speaker and open his computer. I handed him a little box with a thumb drive in it along with a lyric sheet.. His gift was a song I wrote, just for him.
I’d like to share it with you but first tell you how it came to be, if that’s ok:
When Bob was diagnosed with his cancer, I was very open with you about how scared I was. My fear was of losing him. Not having him here with me in a year or two. The thought of us not growing old together broke my heart..
After settling in with the news and with great guidance from dear friends to hold on to my faith, I decided I wanted to write him a song and give it to him for his birthday. I called on my dear friends, Danny Flowers and Kevin McKendree to help me write it. I told them I knew what I wanted to say but not sure how to say.
What I was certain of was they were the only people I wanted to write this song with. We set a date for May 13th.. At first, I thought I wanted it to be a ballad but when we got together, I realized that over the past couple of months, I have only wanted uplifting music and people to be around me so I told them to let’s make it fun and not sappy. Danny started playing a cool riff and Kevin quickly joined him and I started singing. A couple hours later we had “Grow Old With You”.. I originally had written “I WANNA grow old with you” but Kevin suggested I say “I’m GONNA grow old with you”. It was the perfect change from hope to certainty.
I asked Kevin if it was possible to record it and have it by today. He had it booked within thirty minutes. He called on Derrek C Phillips and Anton Nesbitt to come play with him and Danny. We went to Kevin’s studio Sunday and this is our creation..Thank you sweet men for your love and talent on this song..
A song about our future years from now. A song of the certainty of growing old together. A song about a song..our song. Just click the title below to take a listen. I hope you like it and I invite you to share it with the one you love.
(Click  link below to hear the song…)


Grow Old with You by Etta Britt and Friends

Orlando, Sunday’s Coming

A week ago, Carrie, Nathan, and I met with a doctor to hear the good news of Nate’s recent MRI as he told us what wasn’t there. That night, I hugged him tight, and he assured me, “I’m going to live a long time.” For that moment, death seemed distant.

Since then, I’ve seen pictures and heard stories of lives ended too soon not from ill health but horrific violence. I’ve heard theories of more than one gunman, theories of conspiracy from ISIS to “The Company.” Because I don’t have their intellect, I’ve had little response. I have no theories. I cannot make sense out of the past week’s events. The images of mass homicide at a nightclub along with the death of a two year old from an alligator attack at the happiest place on earth has scarred my psyche perhaps to that broken place beyond repair for this week’s events are beyond sense, beyond any rationales, traumatic by definition for a trauma is any disturbing experience which the brain cannot comprehend by relating to previously held concepts or experiences.

Though traumatic, let us stay here for a moment. Let’s forget the explanations of the philosophers and the rhetoric of the politicians lobbying for us to let them aim our anger at the evil among us. Let’s give witness to the pain of our neighbors, some we know, some we don’t. Let’s find language for their pain by looking beyond politics and philosophy to the poetry. Philosophers nor politicians can express the pain of the survivors from the Pulse shootings or the family who will return to Nebraska without their son. Only the poets can. Poets like Jane Kenyon,

The Sandy Hole

The infant’s coffin no bigger than a flightbag…
The young father steps backward from the sandy hole,
eyes wide and dry, his hand over his mouth.
No one dares to come near him, even to touch his sleeve.

…poets like Reed Whittemore

Psalm

The Lord feeds some of His prisoners better than others.
It could be said of Him that He is not a just god but an indifferent god.
That He is not to be trusted to reward the righteous 
and punish the unscrupulous.
That He maketh the poor poorer but is otherwise undependable.

It could be said of Him that it is His school 

for the germane that produced
the Congressional Record.
That it is His vision of justice that gave us cost accounting.

It could be said of Him that though we walk with Him all

the days of our lives we will never fathom Him
Because He is empty.

These are the dark images of our Lord

That make it seem needful for us to pray not unto Him
But ourselves.
But when we do that we find that indeed we are truly lost
And we rush back into the safer fold, impressed by His care for us.

And poets like the Psalmist,

Psalm 13

1 How long, O Lord? Will you forget me forever?
How long will you hide your face from me?
2 How long must I bear pain[a] in my soul,
and have sorrow in my heart all day long?
How long shall my enemy be exalted over me?
3 Consider and answer me, O Lord my God!
Give light to my eyes, or I will sleep the sleep of death,
4 and my enemy will say, “I have prevailed”;
my foes will rejoice because I am shaken.
5 But I trusted in your steadfast love;
my heart shall rejoice in your salvation.
6 I will sing to the Lord,
because he has dealt bountifully with me.

All the above exhibit a darkness that we too easily dismiss but after weeks like this past one, cannot reasonably deny. If we let the poets like the Psalmist guide us, there is a way in the overwhelming wood, there is a light in the dark.

That Psalmist, even when feeling forgotten by God, looks toward the future with hope when he or she would sing again to God who has and will deal bountifully in a way more plentiful than even the Psalmist can imagine in the pain of the present moment. Yet, he or she trusts God even when God seems silent and absent.

This week, this 13th Psalmist’s story is our story. The Psalmist’s path is our path. And, honestly, it is the only path. Who should know that better than we? Our worship is on Sunday, and every Sunday is Easter Sunday. Every Easter Sunday has one prerequisite, Friday comes before it. As Easter people, we only find life beyond death, paradise beyond our pain, the kingdom of God beyond whatever this is for the path to Easter is through Friday, which only in reflection, only looking backward, can we call it, “Good.” The hope of God’s resurrecting power is the only hope that enables us to face the horror of any cross trusting that no matter how terrible, the power of Friday is always limited, because Sunday is coming.

See you on Sunday.

For a lift to your soul, listen to this excerpt from a sermon by Tony Campolo that asserts this central facet to our faith, “It’s Friday, but Sunday’s Coming.”

A Better Dream for Memorial Day

When we pray “Thy Kingdom come…” or speak of “One Nation under God,” what do we imagine? Proverbs 29 warns, “Where there is no vision, the people perish.” (KJV) What are your visions for the world?

George McKorkle provides a dream grand enough for Memorial Day and for people of God everywhere. Etta Britt shared this song with me and our congregation on September 11, 2001. I still haven’t lost the dream.

 

Einstein on Life – Have a Brain not Just a Spinal Cord

Not just a scientist or an observer of the measurable properties of life, Albert Einstein reflected on human choice, relationships, and government. Here are a few of my favorite thoughts from one of the world’s greatest thinkers published in Living Philosophies in 1931…

Strange is our situation here upon earth. Each of us comes for a short visit, not knowing why, yet sometimes seeming to divine a purpose.

From the standpoint of daily life, however, there is one thing we do know: that man is here for the sake of other men —above all for those upon whose smile and well-being our own happiness depends, and also for the countless unknown souls with whose fate we are connected by a bond of sympathy. Many times a day I realize how much my own outer and inner life is built upon the labors of my fellowmen, both living and dead, and how earnestly I must exert myself in order to give in return as much as I have received. My peace of mind is often troubled by the depressing sense that I have borrowed too heavily from the work of other men. Continue reading “Einstein on Life – Have a Brain not Just a Spinal Cord”

Live Your Moments Practice Imagine Yourself in Different Ways

Matthew 18: At that time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, “Who is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?” 2 He called a child, whom he put among them, 3 and said, “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. 4 Whoever becomes humble like this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. 5 Whoever welcomes one such child in my name welcomes me.

When I forget the distinct personality, the particular possibility and potential each person has, my children remind me, like when my son, Nathan, showed me the possibilities of a trashcan when seen through his eyes.  Continue reading “Live Your Moments Practice Imagine Yourself in Different Ways”

Share A Little Love and Understanding


A little love
and understanding
can help to lift the burden
when life gets demanding.
Roger Blevins

Jesus was standing before 5,000 hungry people. He wanted to give them something to eat. He asked the crowd, “Who has something to share?” One little boy of the thousands stepped up and offered his lunch. Jesus and the boy both trusted God would use what they had to offer and do something miraculous. It was. The gift was more than enough.bb and dj
In the Temple, people were putting in huge gifts when a poor widow stepped up and offered her last two cents. Jesus and the woman both trusted God would use what they had to offer and do something miraculous. It was. The gift was more than enough.
When Bob Britt was diagnosed with cancer, many of us who Bob has befriended throughout his personal and professional life have stepped up to do what we can hoping it will be more than enough and trusting God that it will. One of the more creative gifts has come from Roger Blevins and Mingo Fishtrap They wrote a song, shot the video, and put the music out to advertise tonight’s event and raise money for our friend. A Little Love and Understanding is a noble effort and a great motto to live by as well as music to bring joy to your heart anytime, even the challenging ones when you share what you have to offer and trust that it is enough.

When your brother needs a helping hand
Best to rolling up your sleeve and reaching on out
When the tables turn he’d be there for you
Help to see you through and there can be no doubt

A little love and understanding
can help to lift the burden when life gets demanding
A little love can help to light the way
Through the darkest night to the brightest day

To purchase the song for yourself or to share with a friend or to read the lyrics, go to: A Little Love and Understanding

Fundraiser for Bob Britt

 

Recently, Bob was diagnosed with Diffuse Large B-Cell Lymphoma. This particular cancer is aggressive and as such, is treated aggressively. Fortunately, this particular lymphoma tends to respond well to the treatment protocol that he is undergoing and he, his family, and his doctor are optimistic for a positive outcome. His treatment plan includes six rounds of chemotherapy, four lumbar punctures, and three to four weeks of daily radiation. This will be a long process, over about 6 or 7 months.

We set our monetary goal at $30,000 to help Bob and his wife Etta pay for their daily living expenses including utility bills, gas, groceries, and other general expenses as well as their medical bills. Bob is hoping to be able to continue to work, but we know that chemotherapy can be quite tough on a person’s body (as well as mind and soul). There will soon come a time that he won’t be able to work over the next 7 months, and if so, Etta will be staying home to be with him throughout his healing process. So, with both of them taking time off of work and driving to and from Vanderbilt Hospital so often, bills will become burdensome. In fact, they will have to drive from Dickson to Vanderbilt and back daily for Bob’s radiation treatments (think about the amount of gas that will take).

We’d like to raise money to be available immediately for Bob and Etta, so we’re asking for any amount you can spare, however large or small. And, of course, prayers are ALWAYS welcome!

TO HELP OUT, Go to: https://www.gofundme.com/uaxnmps4

Live Your Moments: Be a Contributor

In Nashville, there is a lot of star-gazing. “Let me tell you who I saw at the grocery store…” If you come to Nashville, the one person I suggest you look for is Tasha French-Lemley. I met her at a men’s study group. She came in and sat down in a chair, kicked off her shoes, crossed her legs beneath her, and told us her story. Here is what I remember.

Tasha moved to Nashville after graduating from college with her degree in graphic design. Since she had no experience in the field, no one would hire her. She took the only job she could find working at Kinkos, making copies, and crying daily that her life had fallen so far below her expectations. Continue reading “Live Your Moments: Be a Contributor”

Church Anywhere, Anytime

If you’ve ever seen The Blind Boys of Alabama, you understand that church is not a location, but church is something they take with them everywhere they go.

Danny Flowers posted this on Facebook this weekend.

Last night I went to see The Blind Boys of Alabama at the Franklin Theater. They invited me to come up and sing my song “I Was A Burden ” with them. This feeling is indescribable. I’m grateful for the opportunity and blessed to be able to do such a thing . I’m also glad that I remembered all the words! I’m on cloud nine this morning, humbled and quietly grateful. God is good, He is real, He is right here in my heart. Love,

I feel similarly about Danny. Everywhere he goes and shares his music and his heart is church. Here is a little older video of Danny singing with The Blind Boys of Alabama and sharing, “I Was a Burden.”

What if Jesus Wakes Up?

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Statues of a homeless Jesus by artist Timothy Schmalz have been appearing across the country inviting debate over homelessness and Jesus. The picture above is in Indianapolis. There is one in Orlando where I live.

Not known for remaining silent on the controversial, I feel the need to ask a simple but important question of this icon. “What if he wakes up?”

If the purpose of the statue is to show Jesus solidarity with the poor, the marginalized, those without shelter, and if he wakes up, how will it fare for the rest of us, those who have more than we need yet never learned how to share in preschool or since, how will it fare for those of us whose day can be ruined because of a lack of cell phone service while the biggest cause of death of children in the world is lack of clean water, how will it fare for us?

Perhaps we should prepare ourselves for the fulfillment of Jesus’ warning in Luke 12:48,  From everyone to whom much has been given, much will be required; and from the one to whom much has been entrusted, even more will be demanded.

The world Jesus’ encountered clearly was not his dream for God’s creation. His purpose was not nor ever has been to fortify the status quo evident by the next verse, seldom quoted by sleeping images of Jesus or slumbering congregants. Jesus warns those who are listening and hear him, I came to bring fire to the earth, and how I wish it were already kindled!

For those whose deals have worked out, for those in places of power, for those who have our goods stored in barns (see earlier in Luke 12), fire is a frightening image. For those who sleep on a park bench wrapped like the figure represented by the statue, fire is warmth, fire is home, fire is hope. It depends on where you sleep at night and whether you are only awake to your need for comfort compared to others need for safety, food, and shelter.

What happens if Jesus wakes up? As I look at his dreams for the world clearly set forth in the Sermon on the Mount (Matthew 5-7) as well as all four gospels, as I look at his dreams for the world compared to my personal goals, as I think how much I have while some die from lack of adequate shelter or clean water, perhaps it’s not Jesus who needs to wake up at all. Perhaps it’s me. Perhaps it’s all of us who claim his name but avoid his way.

Perhaps it is I who sleep. Perhaps he is quite awake, quite active, and quite near, calling all of us from our slumber,

Sleeper, awake!
Rise from the dead,
and Christ will shine on you.
Ephesians 5:14

Perhaps a fire in our souls could warm the world.

More Deadly than a Murderer or Threatening than ISIS

The real threat:

The FBI reports in 2014, there were 13,741 murders in the United States. In that same period in the United States there were 43,773 suicides. Americans were over 3 times more likely to die at their own hands than from a murderer.

Though the politicians debate the growing threat from Isis, the number of people who have died on American soil since from terrorist activity since September 11, 2001 is 59. The number of Americans who have died abroad from acts of terrorism who were nonmilitary and not in Iran, Iraq, or Afghanistan were 350. 

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Live Your Moments: Make Space

Last week, I got an up close look at the guitar of Jared Green of The Howlin Brothers. He has actually played another hole in his acoustic. Does it affect the sound? As far as I can tell, this extra hole in Jared’s hands only make it sound better.

One thing I know for sure, without holes, an acoustic guitar doesn’t make any music. Most of an acoustic guitar is space. Without space, it’s just wood, the music doesn’t resonate.

So it is with us. If we fill all our time, and allow no space, we will have little rhythm or music in our lives.

One example of just how important space is in The Bible is Zacchaeus, the famous little man who climbed a tree to see, and perhaps be seen, by Jesus. He had to separate himself, put some space between himself and others before he could both see Jesus and be seen by him.

Like me, like many of us, Zacchaeus had tried to fill his life, he had position, power, and wealth. His life was full, but he was not fulfilled. Zacchaeus was the opposite – unfulfilled, dissatisfied, and alienated. With all his wealth, he was poor. With all his power, he was week. With all his health, he was ill. In the midst of the crowd, in the traffic of the parade, he was alone. How did he enable his own transformation? He made space.

 

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Make Your Own Kind of Moments

I received this picture from somewhere out on the Atlantic Ocean.

It is the itinerary from today’s Delbert McClinton Sandy Beaches Cruise. If you look close enough, you’ll see on the schedule, at 1:00 is The Moment, in Ocean Bar #3, described as “A Service of word, prayer, and song, celebrating the moments that make up our time together. Led by Carol Warren and Etta Britt.”

How many other worship services have you seen where in the same space following is a “Tropical Mixology Class?” It is, after all, Ocean Bar #3.

We started having our Moments north of Nashville on the Britt’s farm, moved into a bar in Nashville, headed south out to Carol Warren’s farm, and then bounced around to a homeless shelter and other places. We found Moments everywhere and everytime we looked.

Genesis 1 says that in the beginning, when God created the earth, God didn’t make a holy mountain to live on or a large cathedral to live in, but a holy moment, a Sabbath, a holy place in time. That’s a moment. Encountering God and others anyplace, anytime, with any and everyone. Thanks be to God. The Lord works in mysterious ways God’s wonders to perform. Rock on.

 

Be a Britt, Lift Up Others in Love

Today, I get to pick up two of my friends who’ll be staying with my family for a few days. Fresh off the Delbert McClinton Sandy Beaches Cruise, they’ll be helping lead worship at church with my congregation on Sunday night.

Bob and Etta Britt are two of my most cherished friends and have been for over fifteen years. Shortly after arriving in Nashville, I went to see Bob and Etta play at Third and Lindsley. To a bar full of folks, Etta announced, “My preacher is here. Anyone want to hear him do a sermon. He’s pretty good.” You can guess the answer.

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Wisdom Transformation: Going Home By Another Way

Reflecting on the Magi, the Wise Ones, on Epiphany, I came to realize that perhaps they weren’t much smarter than the rest of us. Herod knew Jesus was trouble so he couldn’t see anything other than what he already thought. The Magi, however, when confronted with a power greater than they imagined, were open to learning some new way God was working in the world. This is what makes wisdom, when you are aware enough of your ignorance of the workings of God to be able to see God at work in a new way, even when God works in mysterious ways, God’s wonders to perform.

For a deeper study on the way of the Magi, check out the following books and the specific chapters:

The Psychology of Jesus, Chapter 8: Herod:  People and Events Don’t Bother Us, But Our Perceptions of Them Do
 and Out of The Crowd, Chapter 15; “The Anxious Crowd”

    

Christmas Gift

My favorite Pat McLaughlin quotes…

When asked to sing at church, “I don’t know any sacred songs. Well… perhaps they’re all sacred songs.”

After I finished worship, “That’s the best #*^##* sermon I ever heard.”

This song is not a carol, and it won’t ever be in a hymnbook, but it brings me joy inside. Shouldn’t all Christmas gifts bring us joy inside? With that intention, have a Funky Christmas. (Merry Christmas, McLaughlin Family. Missed you at Thanksgiving.)

Don’t know what to get your music lover for Christmas? Support quality song writing in Nashville and have yourself a funky Christmas.  http://www.patmclaughlin.com/

Backroads & Spotlights

cover2-1My wonderful friend, Etta Britt, has a book coming out in the next few weeks. For those who have heard her life revealed in her songs like Quiet House and others, in this book she shares her soul from which her music comes. My connection with Etta Britt is so strong that at times I cannot tell if she is singing my sermons or if I’m preaching her songs – like this one, I Believe. 

It’s just a matter of time,
we’re gonna wake up to find.
This world is moving so fast
every moment, make it last.
When you give hope then you’ll see,
love is all we need to believe.
A touch of a hand, one smile
make someone ‘s life worthwhile
I believe…

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